Who do you love?

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What is the first name that comes to mind? Is it your husband? Is it your wife? Is it your mom or dad? How about your girlfriend or boyfriend? Did you mention yourself anywhere in there? *Yes I am going there this morning!*

It just kills me when people say that they can’t live without someone. Or they feel as though their life will never be anything without that “special person” *the opposite sex* in their lives. How much of yourself have you invested into this other person for you to feel so entangled in the other person’s life? You take the time to make them happy **a lot of ways to do this, but it always seems to be one thing. You know what I am talking about! **side eyes** LOL**but do not take time to make yourself happy! This is definitely the danger zone! This topic is brought to my attention just about everyday that I log onto Facebook or Twitter. It actually makes me feel uncomfortable because I have to see these individuals go through such turmoil within themselves. So I told myself, I have to speak against such a STRONG issue!

So many of us desire in life to have a “love of our own” who will love us until the end of time. There’s nothing wrong with that. “Someone who will complete us in every area of our lives.” “Someone who will just be so in tune with your life that without them, you will just die!” Ok, let’s get this straight. You will continue to live without them **it may hurt but you will live! I promise**. You don’t need someone to complete you, you need someone to complement **the verb: Add to (something) in a way that ENHANCES or IMPROVES it** you. Think about the people who complement each other in Hollywood. The “Power Couples”: Will &Jada Smith, Angela Bassett & Courtney Vance, Boris Kodjoe & Nicole Ari Parker *you get the picture?* These couples had their own lives before their spouses and absolutely LOVED and still LOVE the skin that they are in. Once they found each other, they COMPLEMENTED  each other enhanced each others lives that much more. And you can’t help but look at them every single time and say, ” I just love them!” That feeling that you get every time looking at these couples, is pure love but comfort to be who they are without changing to fit the other person’s mold of a mate.

You see, when you are already whole for yourself, no one can come in and destroy the life that you have already built, according to God’s plan. They can only enhance it and make life just that much sweeter! Loving the skin you are in, the hair on your head, the gifts and talents that God has given you, and loving the old you because it has made the new you,  lets off a SWEET aroma that the one who is for you can’t help but notice. “Man, who is she?” “WOW, it’s something about him!” When you know who you are and “WHOSE you are” **God’s child** through and through, your spirits become lifted, that smile starts to come up on your face when you open your eyes in the morning, you start taking care of your body a lot better than before, and your words speak life rather than death in your relationships. At this point, who wouldn’t want you for YOU!?

Take the time to love YOU! Take the time to know what YOU like! Take the time know the areas that need improvement in YOUR life! Just take some much needed time out for YOU! Do all of this BEFORE you jump into another relationship with the right person but at the wrong time because you still have to figure out how to love YOU! I’m not downplaying love nor am I saying be selfish, but what I am saying is in order to move forward and have a SUCCESSFUL relationship, take some time to learn yourself so the next person you date, you are adding love to their life, not just taking their love because you haven’t found it in yourself first.

So let me ask this again, Who. Do. You. Love?

 

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^^^^From me to you. ^^^^

 

Kaidy’s Face

Today I am SO honored to bring you this SPECIAL interview with a woman who has been through so much in her life, but has so much to share with all of her readers. She currently has a website www.kaidysface.com that speaks to the volume of what is going on with our women, men, and families in today’s society. This site has catapulted into a web sensation in such a short time. And I am so happy that we have her today. Ms. Halaveshia Hall. Here is what we chatted about:

Kimberly Renay: What is Kaidy’s Face?

Ms. Hall: Kaidy’s Face is an inspirational blog that is designed to offer daily inspiration and uplift the spirits of any human being.  It’s geared towards women in an attempt to stop the cycle of being dependents and co-dependents in any type of relationship.  Also to break the chain of greediness and neediness that is so often found in women.

*Kaidy's Face Inspiration*

Kimberly Renay: When did you realize that it was time to start Kaidy’s Face?

Ms. Hall: I realized it was time for me to start Kaidy’s Face when domestic abuse began to hit people that I know and that are in my age group but being covered up.  There was a shame attached to it.  I know that it has probably been going on for a while in some instances and probably closer to me than I really knew but for some reason I began to see it more.  People started coming to me on a personal level just talking to me and asking for advice and I began to ask God why/how did they know to come to me?

Kimberly Renay: WOW…that sounds like God. So would you say that this was destined to happen for you to be an impact on others?

Ms. Hall: YES! Looking back I sure can say it was. The first weekend in June I was just filled with emotions from nowhere. All I wanted to do was get home to Albany, Ga.  I had gotten to where I could not sleep. I was not eating. I was just confused but I was even confused about what I was confused about! *LOL! If that makes sense!* So, my best friend paid for me to make a trip home and all I knew is that I had to get to my “help”, to my church family. I went to 3 churches in Albany that had a big impact on my life all within two days!  I ended at Gethsemane Worship Center and I went into my Bishop’s office in tears just asking for prayer and clarity.  It is in that office where he and the First Lady broke down to me that what I had been wrestling with was just God’s way of showing me my purpose in life. They also told me that it was my time to use my gifts, my story, my life, to celebrate and uplift Him! I still did not now it was going to be “Kaidy’s Face” {the blog}. When I came home {Back to Atlanta} I was still confused but not as much. I prayed. I asked God to show me what/how He wanted me to do everything.  One morning I went to work. I posted just my own random thought on Facebook and the response to it was huge! I said, “God you are using me to reach people but it has to be a bigger place than Facebook!” I thought “blog” but I was clueless so I sent a message to my friend/co-worker Kimberly Renay and I asked her “Kim, how do you start a blog?” and she gave me a site to start a free one and Kaidy’s Face has grew from there!

*Ms.Hall doing an interview*

Kimberly Renay: YES! I have to say that that was a proud moment to see you starting your purpose and impacting others. It was a prayer answered. Give us a piece of what’s the message that you intend to relay to your readers?

Ms. Hall: The message that I really want to get across to my readers is the importance of forgiving.  Forgiving yourself and others is the first process to start healing.  I want the women to know that they were created to create and that they are bigger and better than the things they are allowing themselves to become victims too.  I want the men to know that a woman is the greatest gift they were ever given and to respect and build them up.

Kimberly Renay: When you write, where do you get your inspiration?

Ms. Hall: I get my inspiration directly from my own life and the things that I have gone through and currently going through.  I ask God to use me to be able to tell my story in a way that will help others as well as myself.  I also get inspiration from going to church and listening to my Pastor. (Anthony Murray, Oasis FLC)

Kimberly Renay: Do you have one regret?

Ms. Hall: Yes and No! *lol* Yes, in that I wish I’d told it sooner.  No, in that I know God does everything for a reason. In His own timing and own planning. And His time is not our time, so when it was His time for it to be told…it was told.

*Ms. Hall herself*

Kimberly Renay: What has been the highlight thus far with Kaidy’s Face?

Ms. Hall: The highlight to me is just the daily response that I get from people via text, email, or Facebook telling me what I said for that day is what they needed to hear or their friend needed to hear.  The fact that today makes only day 15 the site has been up and running and I have over 1,000 page views means that someone is listening or at least want to see what I have to say!

Kimberly Renay: WOW….that is a GREAT accomplishment. During this time there is so much that needs to be heard and you surely are dishing it out. NO CHASER! If there is one thing that you could tell your readers/followers, what would it be?

Ms.Hall: Forgive, forgive, forgive and forgetting will come naturally!!!

*Ms. Hall*

Kimberly Renay: Where do you see Kaidy’s Face in 1 year?

Ms. Hall: I see Kaidy’s Face as a global site known as the place to get your healing and inspiration daily!

Kimberly Renay: How can the readers get in touch with Kaidy’s Face?

Ms. Hall: kaidysface@gmail.com of  follow me on Twitter @kaidysface.

I have to say that I am just BLOWN away. Not solely just that Kaidy’s Face came together, but that God used some pretty difficult life situations to impact so many other people going through very similar issues. EVERYONE has a place to share a piece of them with someone else, no matter what it may be! You see folks. By not sharing your story/gift/talent can possibly keep someone else from receiving their blessing. I can’t wait to see all that is to come for Kaidy’s Face. And just think, this is just the first 2 weeks! WOW!

So the age old question comes back again, what are you waiting for?

Kimberly Renay