Who do you love?

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What is the first name that comes to mind? Is it your husband? Is it your wife? Is it your mom or dad? How about your girlfriend or boyfriend? Did you mention yourself anywhere in there? *Yes I am going there this morning!*

It just kills me when people say that they can’t live without someone. Or they feel as though their life will never be anything without that “special person” *the opposite sex* in their lives. How much of yourself have you invested into this other person for you to feel so entangled in the other person’s life? You take the time to make them happy **a lot of ways to do this, but it always seems to be one thing. You know what I am talking about! **side eyes** LOL**but do not take time to make yourself happy! This is definitely the danger zone! This topic is brought to my attention just about everyday that I log onto Facebook or Twitter. It actually makes me feel uncomfortable because I have to see these individuals go through such turmoil within themselves. So I told myself, I have to speak against such a STRONG issue!

So many of us desire in life to have a “love of our own” who will love us until the end of time. There’s nothing wrong with that. “Someone who will complete us in every area of our lives.” “Someone who will just be so in tune with your life that without them, you will just die!” Ok, let’s get this straight. You will continue to live without them **it may hurt but you will live! I promise**. You don’t need someone to complete you, you need someone to complement **the verb: Add to (something) in a way that ENHANCES or IMPROVES it** you. Think about the people who complement each other in Hollywood. The “Power Couples”: Will &Jada Smith, Angela Bassett & Courtney Vance, Boris Kodjoe & Nicole Ari Parker *you get the picture?* These couples had their own lives before their spouses and absolutely LOVED and still LOVE the skin that they are in. Once they found each other, they COMPLEMENTED  each other enhanced each others lives that much more. And you can’t help but look at them every single time and say, ” I just love them!” That feeling that you get every time looking at these couples, is pure love but comfort to be who they are without changing to fit the other person’s mold of a mate.

You see, when you are already whole for yourself, no one can come in and destroy the life that you have already built, according to God’s plan. They can only enhance it and make life just that much sweeter! Loving the skin you are in, the hair on your head, the gifts and talents that God has given you, and loving the old you because it has made the new you,  lets off a SWEET aroma that the one who is for you can’t help but notice. “Man, who is she?” “WOW, it’s something about him!” When you know who you are and “WHOSE you are” **God’s child** through and through, your spirits become lifted, that smile starts to come up on your face when you open your eyes in the morning, you start taking care of your body a lot better than before, and your words speak life rather than death in your relationships. At this point, who wouldn’t want you for YOU!?

Take the time to love YOU! Take the time to know what YOU like! Take the time know the areas that need improvement in YOUR life! Just take some much needed time out for YOU! Do all of this BEFORE you jump into another relationship with the right person but at the wrong time because you still have to figure out how to love YOU! I’m not downplaying love nor am I saying be selfish, but what I am saying is in order to move forward and have a SUCCESSFUL relationship, take some time to learn yourself so the next person you date, you are adding love to their life, not just taking their love because you haven’t found it in yourself first.

So let me ask this again, Who. Do. You. Love?

 

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^^^^From me to you. ^^^^

 

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2 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. onesinglelady
    Jul 20, 2011 @ 10:43:29

    This is so true, we cannot truly love, unselfishly, another person if we do not love ourselves!

    Reply

    • talentwhatsittoyou
      Jul 20, 2011 @ 11:17:32

      You get me! Sometimes we miss the mark, and it is not always because we purposely do so. Sometimes we just don’t know how to love ourselves or have had bad examples of what love is so we internalize it. Thanks for reading and keep reading! 🙂

      Reply

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